One of the top lessons young leaders learn is this, “Everyone is not like me!” Charging ahead with plans to lead can be pretty discouraging when you turn around and find no one is following you. A major step to grow as a leader is to begin considering the thoughts, interests and personalities of other people. Understanding how people think and what they enjoy will allow you to have your plans intersect with people in a way that will catch their attention. The following information guides people to understand themselves while better understanding the needs of others.
YOU ARE NOT THE CENTER
It is common for people to lead as if everyone thinks like they do and has the same preferences that they do. All people think differently.
UNDERSTAND OTHERS
Take time to think about those you have the opportunity to lead. Consider what they like to do, the clothes they wear, and culture they consume (music, TV, movies, web sites, magazines).
BRING OTHERS WITH YOU
Find creative ways to seek the opinions and input of others. Leading by dominating the discussion and pushing forward your ideas without input will cause followers to lose enthusiasm.
STUDY LEADERSHIP
Begin to watch leadership. This practice allows people to see what works and what does not in different situations with different personalities. It also allows people to witness characteristics helpful in various leadership opportunities. Observe parents/ care givers, grandparents, teachers, coaches, instructors, politicians, church leaders as well as fictitious leaders on television and movie shows.
Put this into practice for your students - Ask to use the C.E. student profiles resource to grow your ability to “know others are not like me!”
Reflect - After you have led a meeting, event, or planning team, invest time considering the following questions: Where did you assume the group was exactly like you? Where did you do a solid job of recognizing different thoughts, opinions, and personalities? What step(s) will help you improve in the future?